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Living and Promoting a Culture of Honor

To understand honor, we must first understand the priorities of bringing Heaven to Earth. The priorities of Heaven are freedom, empowerment, and love - whereby honor being the result of our process of walking out these priorities. This process is accomplished through our earthly relationships, which require us to not only trust those around us, but also to allow them the freedom to be powerful by having influence in our lives.

Because Heaven is full of God’s presence, it is also FULL of freedom. The Apostle Paul writes, “…where the presence of God is there is freedom” (2 Corinthians 3:17). Let’s remember, we are children of the Limitless One; so how much power, love, and self-control of the Spirit are we actually demonstrating?
The Bible says to honor all peoples, which also includes honoring those who don’t necessarily “earn” or “deserve” it. We cannot allow the character defects of others to determine the way we behave. Self-control means, ‘I will never allow the way you conduct yourself to control me’. Furthermore, the character defects of others will never control the core values I uphold. It doesn’t matter if they are a child, an elder in the church, or a terrorist. Choosing a lifestyle of honor means we no longer require others to earn our love or honor – partly because we no longer withhold love or honor – but also because as honorable people motivated by love we give honor and love freely. It is a byproduct of our love relationship with our King.

In 2010 we need to ask ourselves, “What is vital for me to be me?” “Do the core values I live by line up with the priorities of Heaven?” “How can perfect love flow more powerfully in my relationships this year?” These questions will lead us toward developing a Culture of Honor in our own lives. True honor is powerful people in relationship with one another. Jesus honored us when he said, “I no longer call you servant, I call you friend,” He leveled the playing field, handed us the Earth, and said, ‘I’m going away for a while, what are you going to do about it?’ I say, Lets bring Heaven to Earth in 2010 by living and promoting a Culture of Honor.

April Lewis

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Loving Your Kids on Purpose Testimonies

Thank you for sharing your testimonies with Loving On Purpose, keep them coming!

Mother of four:

Jenny overslept this morning and missed her bus. Here’s how our conversation went:

Me: “Oh NO! What are you going to do?

Jenny: I don’t know. Could I pay you to drive me?

Me: Sure, how much are you paying?

Jenny: $5

Me: Ok. Oh and you’re going to have to wake up your brother & sister and get them ready too.

Jenny: Ok

Then she proceeds to get her brother up. She had to go get his clothes for him too. The younger one, Hailey…is a tough one. Kenzie ended up offering to pay her $1 and do her chores for the day. The offer of payment worked and she finally got Hailey to get up and get dressed after about 20 minutes! It was really kind of funny. All went well and Kenzie was late to school…but there was no yelling or tantrum throwing! I LOVE this!!!

Mother of Three:
That's awesome!!! Isn't this so freeing when they're learning how to solve their own problems and she already knows the language and how it works!!! Well done!!! I agree Loving on Purpose had radically changed our lives and our children too. We've read tons of books, done Growing Kids Gods Way, gone to parenting seminars and classes, tried lots of different things and I can honestly say not one of those has grabbed my husband's and my heart like Loving on Purpose has!! We are forever changed. Among the Holy Conviction of tears and laughter arises Biblical truth and tangible practical ways that we as parents can stop passing on the Sins of our Fathers and once again have heart connections with our kids and peace in our homes.

Tho, I'm still learning. My son asked for help today at 7:55 a.m. in finding the only pair of pants he wanted to wear to school. My progress is that I didn't get mad and yell, instead I told him what I was going to do.

Me: "Are you asking for my help?"
Sy: "Yes!!"
Me: "I'll look for a little bit, but this is your problem, and we're still leaving at 8:00 a.m. whether or not we find those pants you wanted wear."
Sy: OK, just help me!!
8:00 a.m. No pants. Car is leaving, the world didn't end, and I'm not running around yelling that "We don't have time for this!!" I'm just calmly driving out of the driveway to school.

I still need to work on not lecturing, making sure my words aren't pennies and letting the consequences be his master teacher.

Father of Five:

Thanks for adding some great new tools to our parenting toolbox. We are finding the Fun/Room tactic to work quite well with the young ones. John – almost 2 – picked up on this right away and is doing great with it; Sam – almost 4 – does not like it much, but is definitely coming around. Giving choices to the older boys is beginning to become more of a habit for me (and my wife too) and I think the boys are starting to ‘engage their brains’ and are figuring things out for themselves instead of just waiting for us to step in. But, I think the biggest change I am seeing is in me. I am focusing more on our relationships and simply (or not so simply) controlling just myself, and leaving the control of others to themselves.

Mother of Five:
THANK YOU! Thanks so much for bringing us together on this. I had read the book, but my husband had never been able to finish it with all that we have going on. This made it almost impossible to implement, as we needed to be on the same page. Doing the class in 6 weeks made it seem "doable", we might have said no to 8 or 12 weeks. This gave us the opportunity to learn the same thing at the same time and really experience it together as parents.

I have noticed the biggest change in Tim and I. I remember Tim being just floored when Danny Silk taught that parenting was not about getting compliance or obedience. That is how we have been parenting for 12 years. What a shift in thinking! What I realized about me is that I was doing WAY TOO MUCH for them and not letting them learn how to problem solve or take responsibility for their mistakes.

With one of our boys in particular, I had already realized that when he yelled "You can't make me!" he was right. I couldn't make him. What Loving on Purpose gave me is the tools to help both my darling son and I figure out what to do next.

While it is hard to watch our kids make poor choices (especially school ones), I think our home is becoming more peaceful. Less yelling. It is also fun to see them learn skills that will help them become amazing adults!

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Heavenly Alignment

Revival Fires Magazine UK

Freedom to the Earth is an Apostolic mandate.
Check out Danny Silk's Freedom to the Earth article in Revival Fires Magazine
January 2010.

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Got answers? We got questions?

We know you have the answers for some of these questions, that is why we created the People Helping People forum. Here are some questions that could really use your help:

" I am still unclear about the order of Government listed in 1 cor 12:28. Does Danny mean that every church must have an apostle and prophet to establish a church, or can a church be established by an apostle then come under the gov of a pastor."
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" What do you guys think are some good ways to build a long distance relationship? "
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" Daughter in 2nd yr college on brink of loosing grant due to work/study "
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Chores not completed properly, but the children have a good attitude - we really want to improve our heart to heart connection, can you help?
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" 19 year old college standards - We have had several people discourage us from "pulling out the rug" when so many kids struggle the first semester they go to college. "
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" ...he is currently failing Chemistry which he takes at the co-op and honestly he doesn't seem to care. ...What does a parent do with that?"
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"I try to control myself, but so often it doesn't work, and I start screeming at him again, although I have decided not to do that anymore. Could you probably help me? "
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" Disrespectful 7 yr old - e've tried "fun or bedroom," timeouts, rewards for good behavior, and other methods. Nothing seems to work right now. Any help would be appreciated."
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"I got a 2 year old, and He is starting to really throw some MAJOR tantrums. ...I was wondering if there are any pointers out there for us? I am exhausted. LOL"
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Who's our Daddy?

Our lives reflect our core beliefs about what is true and what is real. The way other people experience us is in direct connection to how we see God our Father. Jesus put it simply when he said, "If you've seen me, then you've seen my Father." We cannot hide what we believe to be true about love, authority, discipline, offense, and so many other of life's lessons anchored in the memories and experiences with our earthly fathers. In this message Danny will explore some of the truths about Daddy's love, voice and responses to His children.

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